Divorce

[I am a huge CUNT]

My girlfriend called me tonight and broke the news that her parents were divorcing.

I've said positive things and she's feeling a little better and everything, but does anyone have any advice on where she could turn?

I kinda feel helpless because I want to fix this and I can't.

[Freak93]

Just keep an open ear man. That is probably the best thing you could do. I think most of it comes down to how her parents actually handle themselves in front of their children. When my parents divorced, they said terribly ignorant things while I was present. Their general actions throughout the whole time are unforgivable in my eyes. Ultimately, just do your best to be there. In the end, there isn't all that much you can do besides that.

[I am a huge CUNT]

Well yeah, I've been here the whole night and she says I'm being awesome for constantly listening to her.

What I hate about her parents is that they are trying to involve her in their problem and get her to take sides.

I also told her to stop listening to their fights because she'll hear some pretty nasty things that she should not be hearing.

[sep]

Divorce sucks, but all you can really do is be there for her. Freak hit it on the head.

I've been involved in my fair share of divorces (3), and they do suck.

[Freak93]

That is some good advice there. The thing with divorce is parents never really consider the feelings of the child (in most cases). Some parents try and use the children to get back at each other during the process.

Then, once the dust has settled and everything is finalized, they don't pay adequate attention to the children. Instead of understanding that they have a child to help through this, they are much too worried in moving on and finding that new partner they can spend the rest of their life with.

Most often a parent forgets that this is a drastic change in a child's life. In most cases, the child has always known home as mom and dad. Now they have this new household where one of them is not there. Change is always something that evokes fear in people, but when you are still young it is even worst. The one place where you felt safe and secure has been turned upside down.

[JackTheRipper]

I actually met my girlfriend right when her parents split. There's not alot you can do, just listen and try to help her through it.