Post by r3dnek on Dec 8, 2007 4:03:46 GMT -5
so, you guys all know how notorious i am for relationship advice on here, and this thread promises nothing different
sorry in advance to those that are sick of these from me, but anyway
yall know me and my chick got "caught" by the cops after hours at the mountain park over Thanksgiving break, and she got grounded and couldn't see me and stuff
well, she was acting all sketchy the two times i talked to her on the phone, and a couple hours before the Iron Bowl (2 weeks ago today) we were talking and i mentioned she was acting weird, and i asked her if she and i would still be "together" when she got ungrounded
she simply said "Don't get your hopes up" which led us into a pretty ugly little discussion for around two hours, and it turns out she "lost her feelings for me" like 3 weeks into our relationship, but didn't tell me cuz she didn't wanna hurt me
needless to say we broke up (i got dumped), and she wants us to still stay good friends, cuz she and i were really close before we dated, and at first i said fine and that i'd call her the day after the AU/Bama game (War Eagle there bama), but during the game i decided i was sick of her crap cuz this was the second time she had lied to me and tricked me into thinking she liked me, the first time being back in the summer when i told her i liked her just before i left for AU, which she basically shut me down by simply saying "Sorry I led you on"
and i didn't call her, but she called me three times on that Sunday, i never answered, then she called me once the following Monday, i didn't answer and she hasn't called since
the past few weeks i've been going through a very broad range of emotions (anger, sadness, pity etc.) and i realized that while i hate what she did and can't stand her, i also still really like her and somewhat wish we could get back together, despite what's happened
my friends here all think i should never talk to her again, get on with life up here cuz she lives back home, and while i think that's the smartest course of action, i still can't really decide what to do
so, we have our court date set up at the exact same day and time, coming up in a week or so, and i'm pretty much trying to decide: do i stay friends with her and play off me ignoring her by saying "Oh, school got so crazy after Thanksgiving break" , or do i tell her we can't be friends because of what she did?
my biggest problem with telling her we can't be friends is the fear that my emotions will get the best of me and i'll start yelling at her and saying how bad she hurt me, and doing all i can to hurt her feelings like she hurt mine, which is something i don't want to do, i want it to be as clean as possible
so, what do you guys think, should i stay friends with her, or just call it quits and tell her at court that we can't ever be friends b/c of what we've been through?
sorry in advance to those that are sick of these from me, but anyway
yall know me and my chick got "caught" by the cops after hours at the mountain park over Thanksgiving break, and she got grounded and couldn't see me and stuff
well, she was acting all sketchy the two times i talked to her on the phone, and a couple hours before the Iron Bowl (2 weeks ago today) we were talking and i mentioned she was acting weird, and i asked her if she and i would still be "together" when she got ungrounded
she simply said "Don't get your hopes up" which led us into a pretty ugly little discussion for around two hours, and it turns out she "lost her feelings for me" like 3 weeks into our relationship, but didn't tell me cuz she didn't wanna hurt me
needless to say we broke up (i got dumped), and she wants us to still stay good friends, cuz she and i were really close before we dated, and at first i said fine and that i'd call her the day after the AU/Bama game (War Eagle there bama), but during the game i decided i was sick of her crap cuz this was the second time she had lied to me and tricked me into thinking she liked me, the first time being back in the summer when i told her i liked her just before i left for AU, which she basically shut me down by simply saying "Sorry I led you on"
and i didn't call her, but she called me three times on that Sunday, i never answered, then she called me once the following Monday, i didn't answer and she hasn't called since
the past few weeks i've been going through a very broad range of emotions (anger, sadness, pity etc.) and i realized that while i hate what she did and can't stand her, i also still really like her and somewhat wish we could get back together, despite what's happened
my friends here all think i should never talk to her again, get on with life up here cuz she lives back home, and while i think that's the smartest course of action, i still can't really decide what to do
so, we have our court date set up at the exact same day and time, coming up in a week or so, and i'm pretty much trying to decide: do i stay friends with her and play off me ignoring her by saying "Oh, school got so crazy after Thanksgiving break" , or do i tell her we can't be friends because of what she did?
my biggest problem with telling her we can't be friends is the fear that my emotions will get the best of me and i'll start yelling at her and saying how bad she hurt me, and doing all i can to hurt her feelings like she hurt mine, which is something i don't want to do, i want it to be as clean as possible
so, what do you guys think, should i stay friends with her, or just call it quits and tell her at court that we can't ever be friends b/c of what we've been through?
