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Post by I am a huge CUNT on Oct 15, 2008 20:00:04 GMT -5
Allright guys.
Basically, me and my long time girlfriend broke up about a month ago now. I have been exploring my options. There is this girl that I like and we have went out before.
We dated for 2 months exactly and broke up because "she didn't feel a connection or that spark needed." Now, this was before either of us could drive, her parents were being way strict and we couldn't really hang out.
We actually talked a lot this summer and I told her I liked her, but I couldn't do anything about it because I was in love with this other girl. Just kind of one of those crushes.
Well, we went to homecoming together and had a great time, but she's just so shy so there isn't a lot of talking from her, and a lot of stuff fly's over her head so it's hard to be funny which is the guy I am out of school. I thrive off making people laugh, but I just can't make her laugh like I would like to because I don't think she will get it.
So my question is, how do you get to a shy girl? I mean I was going to tell her I liked her again, but I don't want her to think I'm some stalker or some freak that never stops liking her etc. Should I talk to her about it? What should I say to not seem creepy?
I mean she says she wants to be friends and I'm her "best friend", but I'm sorry, I hate that role. I know there's something there, the hard part is getting back into the liking mode. And I know she feels kinda the same, she just doesn't if that makes any sense. She's kinda 50/50 if I had to guess.
So I know I'm prolly really confusing, but any help would be appreciated guys.
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Post by Loki on Oct 15, 2008 20:17:05 GMT -5
Don't let that girl fool you. If you're her best friend, she's got some hardcore feelings for you. I'm not gonna say guys and girls can't be friends but..it's rare that that's all there is there.
Honestly, keep moving slowly with things. It'll come. Patience is a virtue. I wouldn't say anything about liking her just yet and hopefully, she'll do it first but I'm gonna doubt it. One of these days it's just gonna come out, from you or her, but it can't be forced. If your feelings are sincere, you don't go about it in the typical asshole way.
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Post by JackTheRipper on Oct 15, 2008 20:44:21 GMT -5
Try this:
Take her to a nice dinner. When she excuses herself to use the restroom, you slip a roofie in her drink. When she passes out, chuckle about how she tends to drink too much. Carry her out, shaking your head and laughing.
Enjoy your night.
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Post by Keeper on Oct 15, 2008 22:58:50 GMT -5
There's a big difference between being in the friendzone and friends who both want to date each other. Speaking from experience, when it's the latter of the two, it's very easy to see. 50/50's not going to cut it, the only way that works is if the girl really likes you, but just feels like a friendship is where your relationship's at right now.
My advice: seek other seas.
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Post by I am a huge CUNT on Oct 16, 2008 16:14:45 GMT -5
I mean 50/50 was just something to throw out there. I mean some days I can see it and some days I don't.
But I guess there's one guy that she likes, but the only guy that she ever talks about is me. Should I take that as a good thing?
And Loki, I think you feel the same way I do. There's something there and I think it might come out soon. But yeah, I'm definitely not rushing into things with it.
I plan on inviting her to some haunted thing next weekend that should be a blast and see how that goes.
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Post by Keeper on Oct 16, 2008 19:32:56 GMT -5
You're just going to have to take it slow -- took me nine months to get where I am (granted, she had a boyfriend), but was worth the time.
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Post by JacktheRipper on Oct 16, 2008 19:35:18 GMT -5
You're just going to have to take it slow -- took me nine months to get where I am (granted, she had a boyfriend), but was worth the time. Keeper you're so wise |
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Post by Keeper on Oct 16, 2008 22:05:11 GMT -5
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Post by Jewel27 on Oct 16, 2008 22:29:57 GMT -5
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Post by D-Mac on Oct 17, 2008 12:41:12 GMT -5
Allright guys. Basically, me and my long time girlfriend broke up about a month ago now. I have been exploring my options. There is this girl that I like and we have went out before. We dated for 2 months exactly and broke up because "she didn't feel a connection or that spark needed." Now, this was before either of us could drive, her parents were being way strict and we couldn't really hang out. We actually talked a lot this summer and I told her I liked her, but I couldn't do anything about it because I was in love with this other girl. Just kind of one of those crushes. Well, we went to homecoming together and had a great time, but she's just so shy so there isn't a lot of talking from her, and a lot of stuff fly's over her head so it's hard to be funny which is the guy I am out of school. I thrive off making people laugh, but I just can't make her laugh like I would like to because I don't think she will get it. So my question is, how do you get to a shy girl? I mean I was going to tell her I liked her again, but I don't want her to think I'm some stalker or some freak that never stops liking her etc. Should I talk to her about it? What should I say to not seem creepy? I mean she says she wants to be friends and I'm her "best friend", but I'm sorry, I hate that role. I know there's something there, the hard part is getting back into the liking mode. And I know she feels kinda the same, she just doesn't if that makes any sense. She's kinda 50/50 if I had to guess. So I know I'm prolly really confusing, but any help would be appreciated guys. Bro i feel the same way i met this girl a while back and we text a lot and shit and seen each other a couple of times and she says she likes me a lot and stuff. However whenever like im with her she is soooo shy, doesnt talk, her friends like love me and laugh at all my shit but she sits there and doesnt even smile really. Its starting to get on my nerves a little, just because of the fact that I do all the damn talking and everything. |
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Post by I am a huge CUNT on Oct 17, 2008 21:23:16 GMT -5
Bro i feel the same way i met this girl a while back and we text a lot and shit and seen each other a couple of times and she says she likes me a lot and stuff. However whenever like im with her she is soooo shy, doesnt talk, her friends like love me and laugh at all my shit but she sits there and doesnt even smile really. Its starting to get on my nerves a little, just because of the fact that I do all the damn talking and everything. I feel ya turnin. It's kind of like I'm always wondering whether she is having a good time with me or would rather be somewhere else. It also annoys me that some days she seems like it, and some days she doesn't seem like she likes me. |
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Post by JacktheRipper on Oct 17, 2008 21:58:11 GMT -5
Relax guys. If you're worried she's not having a good time, it'll show. Just go with the flow.
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Post by Sportsbuck on Oct 18, 2008 15:03:21 GMT -5
There's a big difference between being in the friendzone and friends who both want to date each other. Speaking from experience, when it's the latter of the two, it's very easy to see. 50/50's not going to cut it, the only way that works is if the girl really likes you, but just feels like a friendship is where your relationship's at right now. My advice: seek other seas. Agree with this 100%. Its very hard to get out of the friendzone once your in it... near impossible in my experiences. |
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